Dear Caregiver: It’s Time to Care for You, Too

Let’s Get Honest, Caregiver Friend.

You’re amazing. You show up every day—tired, maybe overwhelmed—but still, you show up. You help others eat, shower, get to appointments, feel seen, and feel safe. You are doing holy, hard, and heart-filled work. But I need to ask you something:

When was the last time you cared for you?

If your answer was a nervous laugh or “I can’t remember,” we need to talk. Not with guilt. Not with shame. With love. Because you matter too—not just the people you serve.

What Is Self-Care (Really)?

Self-care isn’t selfish, lazy, or optional. It’s not bubble baths and chocolate (unless that’s your thing—then I say go for it). True self-care is about tending to your own emotional, physical, and mental health so you can keep showing up strong and grounded.

Think of it this way: You wouldn’t let your phone run out of battery. So why do you run on empty?

The Warning Signs You’re Running Low

You might need some self-care if:

• You're snappy and impatient—even with people you love.

• You cry more easily or feel numb.

• You wake up tired or have trouble sleeping.

• You feel like no one sees how hard this is.

• You fantasize about running away to a cabin in the woods (just me?).

These aren’t just "bad days." These are signs that your soul is calling for care.

What Does Life-Giving Self-Care Look Like?

Let’s ditch the Pinterest-perfect routines and keep it real. Self-care should fit your life, not stress you out more. Here are some life coach-approved ideas that work even when you’re busy:

Breathe On Purpose. Take 2 minutes to close your eyes, breathe deep, and whisper, “I’m allowed to pause.” That’s not weakness—it’s wisdom.

Say "No" So You Can Say "Yes."Every time you say no to one more task, you say yes to your well-being. Boundaries are brave. And beautiful.

Feel Your Feelings. You're allowed to feel tired, angry, sad, or even resentful. Naming your feelings doesn’t make you ungrateful—it makes you honest. And honesty leads to healing.

Nourish Yourself. Drink water. Eat something green. Stretch your body. Take your vitamins. These are not luxuries—they are the basics that help your brain and body stay strong.

Let Yourself Be Held. Whether it’s through a friend, a counselor, your faith, or a journal, let yourself be supported. You weren’t meant to carry this alone.

Let’s Redefine Strength

Being strong doesn’t mean you never cry. It means you know when to rest. It means asking for help. It means saying, “I can’t do it all, and I don’t have to.”

As a life coach, I’ve worked with dozens of caregivers who thought they had to “keep it all together.” But here’s the truth: You are still enough even when you fall apart.

You are still worthy, even when you need rest.

You are still strong, even when you need help.

You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup… But You Can Refill It.

If you’ve been running on fumes, consider this your gentle (but bold) reminder: You are not a machine. You are a human being with needs, dreams, and a heart that deserves care.

So this week, give yourself permission to:

• Take one small break.

• Say no without guilt.

• Do something kind for yourself.

Because your life matters, too.

Need Help Creating a Plan?

Sometimes self-care feels like just another thing on your to-do list. That’s where coaching comes in. If you need help designing a simple, doable plan that fits your life, I’d love to help you.

You’re already caring for others so well. Let’s work together to help you care for you.

With so much love and belief in you,

Kate

Life Coach | Wellness Advocate | Fellow Human

Because you were never meant to do it all alone.